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December 23, 2009
Issue #41


Today’s newsletter puts the spotlight on asking better questions so you get better answers.

Jennifer GraingerWishing you much love and light,

Jennifer Grainger
Jennifer T. Grainger, B.Msc.
Founder: Spiritual Growth Community


Stop Worrying and Start Living!

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It is easy to see why we, as a humanity, are in such a mess! (You have noticed, haven’t you?) For all our efforts to control our lives, we don’t put very much attention on controlling what we think, what we say to ourselves, or the quality of the questions we ask the Universe.

You have probably noticed that we live in a culture that puts enormous focus on what is wrong and whose fault it is. When an accident happens, when a crazy person shoots up a school, when a building collapses, etc. often the first question posed is “whose fault is it?”

No wonder most of us, wanting to avoid blame and punishment, have a natural inclination to focus on what is missing or not working in our lives, and go to great lengths to try to control our environment and the people in it.

In light of that consider these spiritual principles:

  • What you focus on expands (when you focus on what you don’t want, you get more of what you don’t want)

  • Your thoughts create your reality (every time you picture losing your job, or being homeless, or whatever you are afraid might happen, you take one step closer to making that a reality) YIKES!)

  • You always get what you think about, whether you want it or not! (Whether you are thinking about what you do want or what you don’t want, that is what you are creating)

We live in a dynamic sea of possibilities. Our thoughts, intentions, actions, etc. influence this sea of possibilities in what shows up for us. We have no control over our unconscious thoughts, which is why we want to continually be building our consciousness so that we can be aware, but we do have complete control over what thoughts we consciously allow to take up space in our head. We have even more control over what we speak out loud.

Next week we begin a new year. A fresh start. When thinking about the year ahead instead of focusing on what is not working, or what you want to fix or get rid of, consider stepping into a new way of interacting with the dynamic sea of possibilities in which you live. Set your intention to focus only on how you want things to be.

When you catch yourself with worry thoughts remind yourself that “worrying is wishing for what you don’t want, and assuring that you will get it!” Refocus your attention on the desired outcome instead of the dreaded outcome. Remember to add the phrase “this or something better.”

Oh, yeah. I almost forgot. Be sure to have no attachment to the outcome. (I know, I know, easier said than done.)

Expect and trust that the Universe is assembling the most perfect response to your request. Be in a state of wonder at how the Universe will pull this one off!

It would be Christmas every day if we lived in the state of wondering what good thing the Universe has in store for us today! If you can recapture the childhood feelings that went with  sending Santa your wish list and then anticipating opening your gifts to see what Santa actually brought you, you will be on the right track. Uhh . . . be sure to be as grateful for the, metaphorically speaking, needed underwear and socks as you are for the, metaphorically speaking, latest electronic gizmo.

You need to “get it” that you have access to all the wisdom of the Universe. You do! Really, really, you do! All you have to do is ask a question and you will get an answer. Granted, when you ask big questions the answers comes in bits and pieces delivered through a myriad of sources like words on a billboard, or in a song, or a casual comment, so your part is to stay alert to what you’re getting.

It is truly sad that this power to access the wisdom of the Universe is so often squandered on “victim” type questions like “Why is this happening to me?” Or worry questions like “What will I do if I lose my job?” when you could be asking efficient and effective questions like “What outcome do I want for myself in this situation?” Or “What would be a good next step in my career path?”

Did you know that your answers are imbedded in your questions? That is, what you ask, and how you ask it, is the material from which the answer is constructed. If you use schlock ingredients in anything you construct, you will get a schlock end product. That goes for your questions, too!

My Christmas gift to you is the following questions I constructed for myself in working my way through my current obstacles and challenges. I made them “fill in the blank” type questions so you can personalize them to your situation.

  • “What am I not thinking or realizing that prevents me from (fill in the blank with the desired outcome) that if perceived would allow (blank) to happen?”

  • “What is the single most powerful action I can take NOW to (fill in the blank with the desired outcome)?”

  • “How do I attain the state of being that easily, effortlessly, and with grace and ease draws to me (fill in the blank) NOW!

Be sure to remember to always add the phrase “or something better.”

BOTTOM LINE: Your most creative tool is the questions you ask. Craft them carefully with focus on the desired outcome. I used to call these high-quality questions. That name still fits, but I have upgraded my language to call them efficient and effective questions. Can you see how just this subtle change in language has more power? The new language, efficient and effective, is more specific than high-quality, and contains the qualities I want to achieve.

TIPS: Along with carefully crafting questions, begin to pay close attention to what you say and then ask yourself “is this what I want to have show up in my life?” Pay particular attention to common phrases like “I’d give my right arm to have that!”

Really, your right arm? There is something you’d rather have than your right arm? How about “that just kills me!” or “I’m dying for ___________.”   Wowzer! I don’t think so!

P.S. It is downright hard to counteract the negative thought culture we live in. Be patient with yourself as you change your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want. Contact me with your comments. I’d love to hear from you about what you are experiencing.

P.P.S. Have a very Joyful Christmas and do generate carefully crafted Glorious Intentions for your New Year!

I’ll “see” you in our next newsletter January 18, 2010.

Love & Light,
Jennifer Grainger

Jennifer Recommends

DVD The Biology of Belief LITE, Bruce Lipton, Ph.D.

The DVD was recorded at the “What the Bleep do we Know” conference in Scottsdale, AZ, October 2005. Dr. Lipton is a research scientist who has introduced new science that will make you a believer that you do create your own reality. Dr. Lipton has played a huge role in making the latest discoveries in cellular biology available to non-scientists in a way that makes the mechanisms of the mind body connection understandable.


I have rearranged the class schedule for 2010 to accommodate adding a second Spiritual Gathering each month.

  1. Beginning January 6, 2010, the Monthly Spiritual Gathering will be held twice a month, the 1st and 3rd Wednesdays. The gatherings continue to be f.r.e.e to Spiritual Growth Community members and $20 to non-members.

    If you plan to come twice a month it makes sense to become a Spiritual Growth Community member at $47 a month, especially if you consider that the Spring and Fall Retreats are also free to Spiritual Growth Community members, not to mention all the other member benefits. As the community grows there will come a time when the retreats will be not be f.r.e.e, but offered at a reduced rate to members. When that time comes I will “grandfather” that benefit to current members while changing the pricing structure for new members.

  2. The Tuesday teleclasses will be on the 2nd and 4th Tuesdays 7 pm to 8 pm Pacific Time.

  3. Abraham channeled teleclass will be on the 1st Monday 7 pm to 8 pm Pacific Time.

  4. The Open Coaching call will be the 4th Thursday 7 pm to 8 pm Pacific Time.

The Awakening Your Light Body class series will commence on April 10, 2010 and continue for one Saturday a month for six months. If you are wondering what your next step might be I urge you to take a look at what is being offered. Check in with your guidance to see if this is the right next step for you. If you get a “yes,” make your commitment to go forward. Trust that the Universe will provide the resources of time and money for you to make this leap in expanding your consciousness.

If you have any questions about the series, please contact me. I would love to have you join us. (Class is limited to 30 people.)

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