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Volume 2, Issue 7
April 8, 2008


Today’s newsletter topic is the Prologue for my next book (as yet untitled). It describes a ceremony I did to transition my marriage. I hope you enjoy it.

Jennifer GraingerWishing you much love and light,

Jennifer Grainger
Jennifer T. Grainger, B.Msc.
Founder: Spiritual Growth Community



Twenty-five years . . . for what purpose? I thought as I prepared the ceremonial altar. Well, not an altar exactly, but an unfinished, three-legged lamp table that would have to do. I replaced the cotton burgundy tablecloth with a swath of purple velvet. Purple, because it is a highly spiritual color. I was going to need all the spiritual help I could get. I gathered the things I would use in the ceremony: a slender purple candle, a precious pile of dried Sedona sage, an amethyst cluster, a chunk of rose quartz the size of a large cauliflower, and a small, but powerful nine-faceted, clear crystal. I drew three angel cards and placed them face down without looking at them.

As I stepped back to evaluate my handiwork, the irony didn’t escape me. Underneath the beauty and symmetry of the altar was a foundation of an unfinished table made to be covered with a cloth to hide its true appearance.

I took the photo out of its frame.

I’d better be sure. “Portraits by Caroline” were not cheap.

I hesitated only long enough to take in a deep breath of resolve.

It has to be done. Someone has to pull the plug on this marriage.

The remnants of doubt dissipated with a resigned sigh as I placed the photo between the scissor’s jaws. I had only my faith that no matter what happened, I would be fine.

I am not alone and the Universe loves and protects me . . .  I hope!

I was reminded of a documentary I’d seen on PBS that included a scene of a farmer who had to shoot the family pig in order to feed his family. His six year old son was crying hysterically in his mother’s arms, shouting “No daddy, no, please daddy, don’t kill him . . . daddy, please!” I watched as the farmer’s energy shifted from vibrant and alive, to frozen and still, as he called the pig to him, raised the rifle to his shoulder and shot it point blank in the forehead.

That’s how I felt as I placed the two halves of the photo on the table and lit the candle. I touched the flame to the sage. Gently blowing on the smoldering leaves, I watched my intentions travel to the realm of spirit on the plume of pungent smoke. 

I took a moment to admire my altar before bowing my head and covering my heart with my hands.

“I call upon my spirit guides, my guardian angel and all the Beings of Light who walk with me on my soul journey. I ask that you create a sacred space for me as I declare my intention to surrender to the will of All-That-Is.

“Here I am. I see no way to leave, and I can’t stay. My soul is dying. I am withering in the confines of a place where there is no more room to grow. I know I am being called to move on. I am willing, but I don’t know how without causing terrible hurt and pain to Dave. Please show me the way to do this with grace and ease for both of us. It is so. So be it. Amen.”

I opened my eyes and gazed intently at my makeshift altar, acknowledging the beauty of the crystals and the delicate smell of the burning sage. Asking for guidance and wisdom, I turned over the angel cards one by one. Truth. Purpose. Courage.

Truth: yes I am finally willing to tell the truth. Purpose: I am stepping out into the unknown dedicated to living my life on purpose. Courage: I am going to need plenty of that!

With another deep breath and a sigh of resignation, I picked up the rose quartz, known for it’s properties of love, and moved it on top of the bookshelf, placing Dave’s half of the photo underneath it.

“Please infuse Dave with your love,” I said.

I tucked my half in the turquoise pouch with my channeling crystal.

“My intention is to receive clear guidance,” I said to the spirit of the crystal that I have used for so many years to amplify my ability to hear wisdom.

The rest is up to the universe now.

I dismantled my altar, restoring the room to its pre-ceremony condition. Closing the door firmly behind me, I left my office.

How am I going to support myself?

BOTTOM LINE: If you have a challenging situation that you just don’t know what to do with, consider performing a ceremony. Often the planning of the ceremony helps you get clear on what it is you are wanting. Doing the ceremony is a tangible act of surrender.

TIP: There is no right or wrong way to do a ceremony. Be free to use your imagination and create something that is meaningful to you.

Community Member’s Aha! Moments

Jennifer Grainger NewsletterDo you have an Aha! Moment you’d like to share? Have you used a ceremony to help you get unstuck in a situation. Do you want some guidance in putting a ceremony together? I am happy to offer some suggestions if you’d like.

I want to hear from you! Tell me about your latest Aha! moment. 

Jennifer Grainger


Watch your email inbox for more information about our Spring Retreat on Saturday, May 16th. I am working on the agenda now and it is shaping up to be a fabulous day of spiritual nourishment.
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